I understand I kept stalking him on Instagram as I felt that was my only way to find answers, I disobeyed God and the man turned cold towards me. Hi Haera, I understand your dilemma. It’s so easy to feel unloved and unworthy when you don’t know God’s love or love yourself.It opened my eyes and know through God all things are possible. Remember that. That intense state of desire and attraction that you experience at the beginning of a relationship. We have a baby together, but that’s what happens when the love has been there and growing for nearly 20 years. I don’t usually read articles but God led me to this particular one and I surprisingly I read it to the end. They are inevitable. So much time, energy drained into each other it wasnt healthy it wasnt peaceful like it should have been. I’m sorry you are going through that. I did pray to go and received a dream about having the miscarriage and a week later I did. For me, it was a breakup. So I tried to do my best to get him out of his shell. My trust is gone in them and they’re no longer #1 on my list to call first. I also asked God to confirm that this guy is my man. in painful agony of what we both know and feel. Idolatry is something we are repeatedly warned about in the Bible. Trust God to give you the courage to end the relationship, and then trust Him to give you broad enough shoulders and thick enough skin to take the criticism that you may face for ending the relationship. I noticed in August his obsession with this world of Warcraft game was real. I repented and asked God to heal my relationship with thia man. We are living in a world that tells people they don’t have to tolerate any abuse from anyone and can just leave every relationship for any type of perceived or actual abuse. After reading those 3 reasons why god says no. If you say you guys were honoring God with your relationship, then I don’t understand why he would break up…, Justine thanks to your insight there is something for anyone to learn here. When I try to follow she turns and smiles and says ” not now Rocco” Or do u think I’m disobeying God as He asked me to let him go. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this quote wasn’t talking about real love but it was talking about superficial love. I believe he was right to say I’m not Christian enough, even though I fought him hard on this judgement. Through our suffering we are opened up to a deeper understanding of God’s love for us and the difficulty of the suffering is overshadowed by the blessing of God’s grace in our lives. My boyfriend broke up with me last month because he has a belief that I’m not Christian enough. The relationship ended years ago but I was still thinking about him. That same week he broke up with me. I highly thank you for this. Before you know it you realize…. The pastor delivered a prophetic word to us together saying that he will ask me to marry him and that we will have a child together etc..she went on to say that when he asks me to marry him..she hears me saying- boy stop playing..( as I always joke around with him) But he’s not playing this time and we will be married..however, before this will happen our relationship will turn for the worse and begin to fall apart..reason being there will be people around him that are dress in sheep clothing..meaning the devil is going to try to distract it in every way possible and through people that he has known for years or is kin too. Erin. or should I not break up please,advice me. Yes but I’m to old now.Why did God wait 20 years to do this?He married even before we broke up.Why what was wrong with me?Im ashamed and hate trying to explain to people.When I don’t have the answer. I know it is too much to hope for but I wanted to share my feelings because, after i woke up crying, I went on an internet search as i have often done in the wake of the break up and its been articles like these that have helped me through a great deal. Hello, complement of the day. When I release and let go, I normally learn to understand why God said ‘no.’ My college ex was terrible; he even ended up cheating on me. You can only blame yourself and not him. I still receive promises from God that He will restore us and that it will be better than before. I’ve seen physical abuse in marriages, verbal abuse, and the list goes on. We just enjoyed each other’s company. I had a very rocky relationship with my ex-boyfriend of 5 years, that ended with me having PTSD from verbal and emotional abuse. At first, I connected with this quote because I felt like it described my past relationships very well. Justine. God loves us and doesn’t want anyone to be abused or around addiction… duh. The only problem, neither the feelings nor your current state of being are sustainable and doomed to die down. We dated and recently broke up due to him pursuing the purpose that God gave him. My heart was beating intensely when he spoke to me and I quickly told my bf because it wasn’t my voice. I cry constantly and all he says is don’t worry GOD is going to work it out and we are going to be okay. And the worst thing is, I have this unsettled feeling that this man will come back into my life and I will cross paths with him again in lifetime when I least expected (even though we are divided by 8000++ miles between us). After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope. Well it is very sad today how the women have really changed for the worst of all nowadays compared to the old days when most women back then were definitely very old fashioned and real ladies altogether, which made it very easy for a man looking for love at that time. God has my best interest here. I keep on getting messages that my breakthrough is on the verge of manifistation. I’m thankful because the time apart has brought so much growth in my life…Before I was uncertain about committing in marriage because of the issues we had, but after time apart now I’m sure! COVID hit – which didn’t allow us to see each other and suddenly (3+ months). Reading this now I realize that no matter how much I tried to focus on God I still idolized the relationship more. He got some news from his kids regarding his ex, which sent him into a bit of a tailspin. It’s been 4 months now. Moreover, your love for him remains strong, even when the honeymoon phase is over. He has now moved on and in a new happy relationship. Yes, it felt like love but I idolized him and I had to take a break. Hi Menesty, this situation sounds very tricky and I understand that it must have been heartbreaking. That same week she blocked me from social media and changed her number ,while i was trying to reflect on the relationship she was going out getting two new tattoos and not a single response back after 20 days I sent her a message threw her email and all she said was she reflected and wanted to let go because I took her for granted . God really bless you for sharing this with us. My goal is to deliver practical content to encourage you in your relationship with God. I write on the devotional life, Bible lands, understanding the Bible, and resources I have found helpful on these topics. Blessings, Justine, I must say, while reading I found myself taking notes and going down memory lane trying to understand some of the things that went down in a few of the relationships that meant a lot and lasted a while. There were times when he constantly wanted to see me amd times when he didn’t even bother to text me for days. I’m sorry about the failed sign-up. I want to offer a bit of advice to everyone searching for marriage/relationship help. My prayers for God to answer about men I’ve dated have come in his time and have been answered in a way I could understand them. I’ve never been in a relationship before, but I can contemplate this to the other divisions of my life when God says no to some. He also said that he was so busy and his schedule wasn’t going to change, basically picking everything else over me. Sometimes God’s will takes you to the path that seems impossible with Human capability and not tempted to do the easy one. Sometimes, people suffer as the direct result of their own poor choices, sinful actions, or willful irresponsibility; in those cases, we see the truth of Proverbs 13:15, “The way of the treacherous is their ruin” (ESV). The great loose of my life. Ive been fine for a while but a few hours ago, I fell into a deep sleep and i had a dream about him. My goal is not to break couples apart, but for couples to have a greater confidence in their decision to marry. Again, It has been a month and a half and every time I ask him to come back home he claims he wants to get himself together and he feels we should try something different. Am I crazy ? Hi, I'm Justine a certified dating and relationship coach who has been blogging on here since 2017. It hurts bad because I was just so sure he was the one but in all actuality I was idolizing him and the relationship, ending over backwards and I am just so hurt. You just don’t feel as close as you once were. You’re in a relationship, and nothing’s really bad, exactly, but things are different. with God by my side each and every day I know he will bring the right relationship into my life! However, I am a Christian. But why wouldnt God say something so I didn’t develop feelings and get more hurt…. Bringing me peace and drawing me closer to him. 3. Suffering and afflictions are unavoidable. Sometimes we’re just so afraid of being alone. We are so desperate to get back together, that we do not take the time to truly reflect on the health of the relationship and what the purpose was. However I had a miscarriage and while I was pregnant it felt off. But the one thing I would suggest you do is to remind yourself every day that it was not love. God is always in control we may have our own plans and thoughts of what our future will be but God knows our beginnings, in betweens and end. I go to church with her, pray everyday together. But the way he treats me and the respect he shows me, made all the difference, he made my heart open and expand and I feel so much gratitude for every painful step and all the lessons I learned. The culture and habits of Egypt was engrained in … I believe you are taking the right steps by repenting and asking God to be the center of your relationship from here on now. I have tried so hard to bring those pieces together but to no avail. I was in a relationship with two years with a man I thought I was going to marry. It would be a lie if I said that I wasn’t hurt and I did have an emotional downfall about it. But I do talk to God or at least I think I do . One scripture that will help you is: Romans 15:13. Well About a month and a half ago he decided to leave and break up with me for a miscommunication. But I would have this reassurance come over me, telling me to be patient. It is in his time, through his wisdom and grace, that if I am to be in a relationship, God will bring the right person to me at the right time. I’m going through a break up and it hurts real Deep this helped and I hope u can write me back thank you ? Learn how your comment data is processed. We were just start as a friend. When we broke up, I was relieved and never looked back. When you are in such a relationship, you often mistake infatuation and lust for love. I believe God always make the right decision for us, waiting for my right one now. I’m glad that this blog post could give you some understanding of your break-up. Be blessed *Justine. I will let go. Please pray for me, for him, for us. Truly ask yourself where your faith lies and do the hard work of believing in God’s goodness for your life! Prayer and Devotional Blogs For Christian Women. I’ve been going through a painful break up and this was the only article that has really helped me and brought peace to the situation. I do understand that this stage felt very close to a real relationship. Pls let me know what u think of this , and what these words I felt mean also whether stalking is it that bad if the profile is public anyways to get answers? Love& Light Mentally attacking me and degrading me. I think god just wanted me to realize he was more important and that he should come first, and now I do realize that. She refuses to see that my lack of religion most of my life didn’t mean I wasn’t close to God. So I’m still waiting for God’s Yes???? And his resentment towards this boyfriend of hers is growing by Leaps and Bounds considering that a previous friend of hers called him and told him when her and the boyfriend begin going through the same compromising struggles every relationship goes through at some point in time and revealed to him that she and the boyfriend had taking a break from residing with one another, which he hang on to every bit of possibility that he could get her back because they broke up now and he’s going around telling everybody that the reason why they even when on that break is because the boyfriend had physically beating her horribly. #9 End the relationship. I reminded him of our prophetic word and his response was it’s not godly to keep doing that and using god. There is no easy way of getting around it. God May Have Taken that Relationship Away from You to Grow You and Draw You Closer to Himself Through This Difficult … Personal Evidence for God: If you want to begin a relationship with God now, you can. Hi Justine, my current partner is Christian and I wasn’t. Even now it hurts ! Your email address will not be published. Its so hard to just walk away from what you believed was your world just to find comfort that is everlasting. I got very upset and said some unkind words which I’m not proud of, but I just felt to disrespected by having my sacred relationship with the lord constantly questioned by the woman that supposedly loves me. I love her so much but she has given up on us and now behave as if there’s a new man in her life. You have to seek Jesus and ask him why you are afraid? God’s ways really are better than our own , Can you share with me your story about how to cane to hear Gods No in your relationship and how you met your yes. Did your ex have a relationship with God? God has changed me a lot since the breakup and I thank Him daily for it. Id still like very much to sign up so please let me know ???? I have come to the end now. In my mind, I was convinced that God had ordained that relationship and that he wanted us to be together. It hurt me so much, I couldn’t understand, with time during my healing process God revealed to me the reasons. but then…. My boyfriend and I debate often about bible topics and in those conversations a lot of curiosity about the truth is sparked in me . I do believe that sometimes God will use a breakup to help you grow. After I read this article I wept and I was very sorry to God. Justine. After the sudden breakup with my girlfriend of near 5 years, God showed me that I idolised the relationship more than Him. I’ve heard testimonies of people having their family or friends accept Christ into their lives 20 or 30 years later. You are absolutely correct that men and women can accept Christ for themselves at any time. Things just fell apart from no where. If you are working full time as either as a stay at home mother or in the work force yourself that is a different story. We stopped talking since last month and I keep having the feeling that I should persevere and keep praying about it and that little voice or feeling am having pisses me off cause from the physical look of things we done but I don’t know for otherwise. This guy I met him on fb after I prayed a short prayer for Mother Mary’s intercession at the time I was heartbroken. There will be no confusion and no anxiety around your relationship status. It breaks my heart, and idk why. By questioning your heart’s desire and getting to the root of it! One thing you can do is to pray for God to separate the spiritual bond/ soul tie you have created with your ex. We ended mutually, respectfully, and still terribly in love with one another. It’s been 2 weekes and as the weeks go by he speaks with less anger. I am going thru something atm. The praying and asking God to get wya back together and the whole nine yards of your story was mine …. It has caused us damage and we had no choice it seems to stay apart I’m a believer and he’s not. I am going through a similar scenario. Am going through a break up although I break it off myself when God says No to it but it’s so deeply hurt because I still love him but but I can’t go again God’s word, I don’t believe in coincidences anymore. Love & Light Thank you so much for this article. All this drama started happening in our marriage and my husband left me and our one month baby just so he could do as his mom wants him to. Instead of spending much time with God I spent it with my fiance. For sometime now I’ve been battling with this feeling about why my relationship of 2year has broken into pieces. I hope this is God saying “not right now”, for this man to heal fully from his past relationship and the demons that come with it, while we can’t see each other anyway. I’m so sorry you are going through this Joe. Your post gives me a glimmer of hope that….hopefully…I can still revert back to my old self again, where I was content with single-hood. My dating and relationship advice advice is faith-based but practical and sourced from my own and other people's life experience. However sometimes I strongly feel like we will be together again someday. The difference is easily found in myself and that regarding three relationships I experienced and the third still am asking God portion first where He sent her back unto me as though we both felt true love since we love God and ourselves the outer circumstances are the haunting factor created by other people unable to accept what reality is and pursue to tear our love and lives apart. Sometimes, people drift apart for no apparent reason. Hi Leeisha, there is only one way for you to understand. I’m also convinced that that might be his only purpose and then the relationship will be over and I’m terrified because it’s the first healthy relationship I’ve been in in forever . I was totally shocked. I want to try and not so that he and I can be together but for my own relationship with God. Therefore, I would try to make it work no matter what, which made me compromise my core values and forget about my self-worth. I’m still praying to God if He can give me my relationship back. Ramona, I also am single, divorced mom, 37 and asking myself the same question. So I decided to go on a little pilgrimage to pray about it when the whole thing was blooming and sincerely speaking it wasn’t easy at all all through but I kept praying to God about it. He was there for a period so that you could get to this point of getting closer to God but the relationship was not the reason/final destination. If you’ve been dating someone and have noticed a change in the relationship…, Here are 4 ways to know God is intervening in your relationship…. We would see each other 1-2 times a week but would naturally fall into a relationship pattern, which scared him as he wasn’t ready. I ended it as I heard God say let him go. I now praise God as I’ve become closer to the Lord now that I’m alone with my children I’ve learnt to place our Heavenly Father above ALL Things. So where did I go wrong? But after hoingbthrough this post I think God gave us No, I can joyfully accept it but a little bit worried about the future. As anyone with less vendetta and hatred would not do such and move forward as we are trying to do, yet turmoil seems to trap at each turn and ut is nerve rackingly uncalled for where lawful offices had to get involved and do little to cease the antics of it all. That’s definitely a good point! Im not exactly unhappy on my own, its jusy not how I imagined my life! In the end, God will use everything for our good. I thought I’m ready to pursue a relationship after what I felt like being healed, however, the second man came into my life but with another form of abuse. I want to break up finally,how do I go about it. Everything is contrary to the love God told me about. I learned how important trusting God when a relationship ends was to my spiritual growth. But, if you’re an intentional Christian who purely desires God’s will to be done in your life, you shouldn’t feel like any relationship that didn’t work out was a waste of time. It is possible. Sometimes God is just waiting for us to realize we are worth more than what we are getting. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. Seek God’s Heart. I was in a relationship with someone,we prayed together and loved each other,although temptation sometimes which led to kisses and touches although no sex,we had to be in different parts of d country for some reasons, I started getting detached cos of a new guy who was showing love and I got distracted.later I wanted to focus on the relationship then I asked my boyfriend some sensitive questions about us but wasn’t pleased with his reply, I got angry and wasn’t ready to hear him out.In between,I once broke up with him for no tangible reason and its cos I m easy to make rash decisions without thinking and even when I say i want a breakup, I don’t really mean it.we went apart for months.i ve been trying to get us back but he is tired. I have a problem, my birthdad who was never ever ever there for me, is a narcissist and has always tried to ruin my life, whether by work or by family. 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